No Wasted Ink Writer’s Links

12/09/2014 by Sally Ember, EdD

AND if you want to get to know Wendy van Camp better, watch for our conversation on *CHANGES*, Wed., 10 AM EST USA, 1/7/15, first of the new year! https://sallyember.com/changes-videocasts-by-sally-ember-ed-d/ will have URLs for that and all Episodes as they are ready. Watch conversations with my previous *CHANGES* guests any time: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLPbfKicwk4dFdeVSAY1tfhtjaEY_clmfq

No Wasted Ink

Welcome back for another Monday of writerly links here at No Wasted Ink. This week I found a hodgepodge of general writer’s links, plus a recounting of Ursula Le Guin’s speech at the National Book Awards. Enjoy!

How to take charge of your plot, writing a story from beginning to end

“we will need writers who can remember freedom”: ursula k le guin at the national book awards

2001: A SPACE ODYSSEY

A Better Way to Think About the Genre Debate

5 Things About Writing I Wish I’d Known 20 Years Ago

Ebook Publishing Gets More Difficult from Here – Here’s How to Succeed

How To Stop Being Lazy And Get More Done – 5 Expert Tips

Will our kids’ kids use commas?

Science Shows Something Surprising About People Who Still Read Fiction

Straight & Narrow vs Zigzag Helter-Skelter: Which Character Arc is your Protagonist on?

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Waiting For Your Boyfriend to Marry You

12/09/2014 by Sally Ember, EdD

My response to this post: Hi, I know you’ll probably want to ignore me because I’m so much older than you, but I’m going to comment, anyway, because your post really bothers me on so many levels. 1) Why are you “waiting” for anything? If your current lover does not want to get married, or want to marry you, you have many choices besides “finding someone else who is willing to take the change of marriage” with you. You could decide that marriage isn’t a goal, isn’t necessary, isn’t a badge of honor, stamp of approval, guarantee of anything or “life goal.”
In our current culture, marriage is a ZIPPER: people get in, get out. Like jobs. Like homes. Almost NO ONE commits “for life” anymore, to anything or anyone. You are either incredibly naive or inconsolably self-centered if your idea of marriage is forever when you can just look around, especially with people around YOUR age, and see that it is NOT.
2) You are NOT just now finishing “one-quarter” of your life, any way you do the math. Most USA women live to be in their late 70s, now, and if you’re lucky by the time you get there, late 80s. By that reckoning, you are PAST 1/4. However, you have been an “adult” for only about 7 years, or 4, depending on how you start “adult” attainment. You have only lived about 1/8 of your adult life, unless your life is unexpectedly cut short. So, relax.

3) When you want to have a child, have one. Many people do and marriage has nothing to do with that. It can, but it does not have to be a part of your decision to be a parent.

4) It is unconscionable and something you will ultimately regret that you are putting so much power into your boyfriend’s hands and NONE into yours. Marriage should be a partnership. You are not a Princess waiting to be rescued by the Prince. You are an adult woman with a good mind and body, with options, with ideas. If you want to propose, do it. If you want to be single, be it. If you want to continue the way you are, do it and stop whining about “waiting.”

Stop “waiting” for a “lifetime partnership,” which marriage probably won’t provide, anyway, to become the adult you want to be. Just be that woman, NOW.

Best to you,

Sally (age 60, partnered with several but never married, parent of one adult son)

#Crowdfunding with #Patreon: Sally Ember’s Campaign Needs Your Support!

12/09/2014 by Sally Ember, EdD

#Crowdfunding with #Patreon: Sally Ember’s Campaign Needs Your Support!

If you are in the “giving” mood this month, as many are, or any time after December, 2014, please consider becoming a Patreon member (free) and supporter of creative people? You could help us to achieve particular goals, complete projects, and acquire enough general financial support to keep being creative.

Sally Ember, Ed.D.

What’s unique about Patreon‘s site and its campaigns is that donors and creative petitioners have the chance to interact via messages and also by the recipient’s offer of “rewards” as “thank-you” gifts, services, or products.

Sally (I) put on this campaign’s “rewards” page several options based on amounts of donations (first starts with a donation as low as $4.00), which include free ebooks, editing/proofreading services of increasing size for increasing donations, and other rewards in the future.

THE PITCH VIDEO:
http://youtu.be/f8nYsfjm_aU?list=UUqnZuobf0YTCiP6silDDL2w

Please visit, watch the pitch video, share, and consider becoming a Patreon patron.

Help fund a book cover, sound equipment upgrade and conversion of videos to podcasts, conversion of ebooks to print books and becoming available as Print-On-Demand (POD) books and/or provide any size donation to go towards the general financial support of a working #writer, CHANGES Google+ Hangout On Air (#HOA) talk show host and blogger who supports other #indie #authors.

Thanks, Happy Holidays, happy creating and happy reading!

THE PATREON PAGE:

http://www.patreon.com/sallyember